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Owing to the recent happenings in a very English county of Cumbria where, for only those of you reading this who do not live in the UK and also to thus arent abreast of the tragic drama that took place there recently to the date of this post, merely a guy, who obviously felt he had no escape from various financial and to other [inter]personal troubles, killed 12 men and they also women amongst whom were his twin brother, members of their family solicitor, and also to merely a few work colleagues, and also to injured at least 12 more in a shooting spree which he completed by pointing the gun at himself, I felt inspired to write this to explain one basic [NLP] principle that a great number of people dont understand and always look at me like Im crazy when I say it to them.
The simple principle is that this guy had a positive intention behind doing all just that tragedy! Now reading this you will probably restate that I have to be nuts! How can shooting 12 of his closest people and to injuring at least 12 more [an item of of whom were complete strangers] possibly enact a positive intention, I hear you exclaim?
A better solution itself is very simple: That websites no such thing as negative intention. In plain fact, our brain can not process negatives. Heres an age-old example which I bet youve read time also to again off to the net or someplace else: Dont think about to life next door neighbor! OK. So what in the world have done you do? Of purchasing course, you thought of the damn neighbor in order stop to think of him/her! Which itself is whys how our brain cannot process negatives. So watch that space, because when I talk about language in my future musings, that will emerge again!
So how is just that connected equipped with the Cumbria shootings? Perfectly, this guy had loads of financial also to [inter]personal issues which he must have felt pretty cornered about and to thus saw no escape but that of ending his life and to those of all those key people in his life. So by doing what he did he was satisfying some positive intentions for himself ones which only he knew what they were. Revenge itself is one of shopping for them. Think about it. And if on your own enact revenge, youre satisfying an item of positive intention within yourself. Yes, anyone else around you will see you and turn into a nasty piece of work, but that wont change because youre satisfying a positive intention of some sort. In just that vein, every crime, murder, rape, captivation, torture, theft, or whatever nastiness a human being may be capable of is a behavior which symbolizes some positive intention to and also to for that individual doing the behavior.
A lot of rapists positive intention is power and control. So many thieves positive intention is abundance, getting something they want while and prevent themselves on the effort of working for it, a great number of torturers and also to captivators positive intention is also power, force away, and also to respect, and also to a great number of murderers positive intention is escape from reality, life, pain, misery, and so forth.
So now that we know just that, you may find it easier to view the next stupid thing your [or your neighbor's?] Child may do with some reserve also to perhaps even compassion. When you know for which kids dont play truant, smoke, take any presctiption drugs, and to abuse alcohol or sex for nothing, you will be much more effective by going straight to finding out what the positive intentions are behind those behaviors that symbolize those intentions and that everybody else just doesnt understand.
Reporters and journalists certainly havent got a clue about gearing their questions also to articles towards acknowledging and discovering these positive intentions. His or her job is to sell bad news [because bad news sells better than good news] and sell it fast! And also, of purchasing course, the pressure of moralistic stances of the older generations such and be that the young generation must not be led to believe that doing acts of crime and nastiness is okay because it satisfies the perpetrators positive intentions presents another barrier to peoples understanding of why acts of crime happen.
Well, harsh and turn into it may sound, sometimes the older generations would run to advised where one can give way, because what used to be valid in their time may stop necessarily no longer be valid in todays society. And to if we communicate the principle of positive intentions behind every human behavior for the youth clearly, we will be able to decide on it both ways and quite happily so!
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